when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change
Do you see my point? Your perspective is going to play a really big role here, so take a moment before you land on it. I’ve found that presenting authentically me has made a world of difference. Sometimes we get so caught up in the roles we play that we lose sight of who we are and all that we have to give just as we are.
Check out how I think our mindset is our superpower: here.
With the intense noise of social media these days, it’s near impossible not to play the ‘comparison game’. The second you start doing that, you deny the world of getting to know you. I mean it, the moment you try to be someone else, the world loses out on knowing you. Becoming unapologetically you isn’t always the easiest route. Sometimes it means losing friends but gaining new ones. Sometimes it’s taking a new job or finding a new hobby that lights you up. Sometimes it’s simply being able to look in the mirror and feel content. Others may not fully get it (until they embark on their journey). There are times when my health had to come first and if there was an event or something else happening in my life that was going to cause more stress than it was worth, I just didn’t participate. I no longer apologize for all that makes up me. No one else is you and that’s your superpower.
Finding happiness with a vestibular disorder was really hard at times. I would think things like, “I can’t quite “see” right, the ground underneath me feels like it’s moving, I’m disconnected from the body I’m standing in, and you want me to feel happy?” Remember, this is my internal dialogue with the universe. And then I’d respond to myself, “Yeah, figure it out…it’s still possible”. And so I started searching (and I suggest listening to the song ‘I’m Still Standing’). It requires finding happiness and pure joy in the small things, everyday-things that someone else might not find happiness in. Stop the comparison game now. The cliché, “comparison is the thief of joy” is incredibly accurate. The first time that I put away laundry and I didn’t feel my body swaying as I stood up, that’s happiness. The first time I didn’t think about my disorder for 5 minutes, crazy happiness.
These days I’m running again, and faster than before having a vestibular disorder. I’m stronger now too. Move + meditate workouts (more on those later) each week have been such a game changer for both my physical and mental health. When I laugh with my boys, I feel it in my soul because it feels so damn good to smile and laugh so hard it brings tears to my eyes. There are also times that I cry and I realize that releasing those emotions is just as beneficial to my overall happiness. My point is that wherever you are and whatever you’re going through, I encourage you to find happiness in today.
It will change your whole world.
Your life is only as great as how you see it. I’m not saying that you should be complacent with any aspect of your life where you desire change. I'm a dreamer and I'm all about going after what feels right in my heart.